Portrait of therapist Alessandra Avallone with New York City skyline in the background

I’m the daughter of immigrants, and I grew up between cultures and languages. My background naturally shapes the way I understand identity, relationships, family dynamics, and the experience of moving between different worlds.

Many of my clients are people who are used to being the strong one for everyone else. On the outside, they may appear capable and put together, while internally feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, grieving, or unsure why certain struggles continue to repeat themselves.

My work is relational, insight-oriented, and trauma-informed. I strive to create a space that feels warm, collaborative, and deeply human.

Hi, I’m Alessandra

How I work

Some people come to therapy knowing exactly what they want to say. Others arrive carrying something they can’t quite name. Maybe it’s a sense that something feels off, dissatisfaction in relationships, or the feeling of constantly carrying too much while never feeling like it’s enough.

Both are welcome here.

I work relationally, which means the connection we build becomes part of the work itself. Therapy is not only about fixing what feels wrong, but also about understanding what shapes us so we can move through the world with more intention and less on autopilot.

Together, we may explore the ways you learned to protect yourself and adapt to others. Over time, therapy can also help you feel less emotionally hijacked by old wounds, triggers, or protective strategies that no longer serve you.

You can expect warmth, collaboration, depth, and occasional moments of humor. Therapy does not have to feel stiff to be meaningful.

Why I do this work

My path into this work began with my own experience of grief after losing my father. That loss changed me, but it also showed me how difficult it can be to find spaces where you feel fully seen.

As a bilingual and bicultural person, I know what it’s like to hold grief, identity, family, and language all at once. Sometimes words do not fully capture what we are carrying, and having to translate that experience can create distance right when you need connection the most.

Grief can be difficult to hold. Our society does not always make much space for it. In my work, I do not try to rush it or make it more comfortable than it is. I can sit with you in it, for as long as it takes.

I often think of grief as standing on the yellow line before the subway doors open. Everyone around you is moving while you remain completely still. Unable to go back, but not quite ready to move forward yet.

And grief is not only about death. We grieve relationships, versions of ourselves, and the life we thought we would have by now. If you are carrying something that feels like grief, there is space for that here.

You do not have to translate yourself here, culturally or emotionally.

Areas I Often Work With:

  • Grief & Loss

  • Relationship & Attachment Concerns

  • Anxiety, Burnout, & Depression

  • Trauma

  • Identity & Bicultural Experiences

  • Life Transitions

Training & Credentials

  • Baruch College (CUNY)
    Master’s Degree in Mental Health Counseling

    Karen Horney Clinic
    Postgraduate Certification in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy

    Manhattan Institute for Psychoanalysis
    Two-Year Certificate Program in Trauma Studies
    Specialized training in trauma, dissociation, and attachment

  • New York
    Licensed Mental Health Counselor – LMHC-D
    License # 013428

    Florida
    Licensed Mental Health Counselor – LMHC
    License # MH27382

    Pennsylvania
    Licensed Professional Counselor– LPC
    License # PC020292

Dino black and beige yorkie poo, therapy dog, sitting on the beach at sunset
Dino black and beige yorkie poo, therapy dog, sitting on the beach at sunset

A Little More About Me

Outside the therapy room, I love traveling, caring for my plants, and a great cup of coffee. Caring for plants has always felt grounding to me. In some ways, I think people are similar. We all need care, attention, and the right conditions to flourish.

And last, but certainly not least, Dino. My dog, part-time virtual assistant, and unofficial co-therapist. He is usually close by and occasionally makes an appearance during virtual sessions.

Looking forward to meeting you!

Looking forward to meeting you!